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This resonated with me today, following a conversation my husband and I had about whether we should think about leaving.

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That made my day - it’s not an easy decision and yet when does it end - in other words you can move and where you move to can develop “issues” then what - it’s one thing to move towards something and another to leave something you don’t.

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So powerful. I loved reading this as I am feeling like I have one foot in the US and one in Costa Rica. Surely, this election has seemed to make it an easier decision to move, but at the same time, I feel like a deserter, and that doesn't feel good either. But your words ring true and fill my heart with hope that people like you are in the country.

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No one is a deserter that chooses to leave - for me the interesting question is where is when does it end? CR could have problems - will the U.S. still continue to defend it and allow it to have no military- if CR changes for the worse then where? I’m asking it philosophically - are we doomed to walk the earth as place after place becomes challenging 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Sadly not, I'd say. The privilege to migrate without needing to request asylum is available to a select few, myself included 🫡

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You know we share a similar path... and I too, woke up the following morning and my first thought was, "I'm not leaving. He's not pushing me out of my own f#cking country." I left in 2006 when Bush was reelected thinking this country had finally become mad. I became an expat for 18 years. I've come full circle. I want to be here and I will fight for it.

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Exactly 💪🏻

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I admire your decision. In my late sixties, my husband and left for Portugal in 2023, to future proof our lives in a variety of categories that are working well as of this moment. Thanks for your insights.

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Future proof is a noble goal and Portugal offers many comforts that the U.S. currently doesn’t and may not for a long time. Often voting with your feet is the loudest move you can make. There is nothing wrong with that 🙏🏻

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Brava!!!!!

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I am cheering your resolve -- and although I don't have an easy path to becoming an expat, I've quickly given up my fantasies of leaving the country. This is my home, I'm here for whatever comes, and I'll do whatever is in my power to protect what I can.

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It’s people like us that I hope will make a difference

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Eventually, we have to be -- even if it's not in our lifetimes.

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